i need to start writing dates down. i keep having to do things by a certain day or time, and i forget to. i used to have a notebook on me that i would use for this, but i ran out of pages

there are a lot more people of color in the freshman class this year. which is a good thing. my friend was really happy about it. we both thought it was kinda weird that some men in our class year were already trying to be friends with them. i mean, there's nothing wrong with being friends, but like, it was just strange. idk

read an article in the nation about some professor at nyu harassing, among other things, a graduate student and a lot of other important people within the philosophy community were defending her. i don't know all the details and i don't think i want to waste that much more time looking into it. i say 'waste' cause it's such a fringe topic that doesn't have much to do with me personally. sure, the fact that it involves philosophy and grad school has plenty to do with me, but it's just another case of people in power defending each other from accusations. i think the article did a good job of drawing comparisons to harvey weinstein and his defenders. i read it cause a professor of mine was quoted in it. what she said is really important so i'll post it here:

"What is at stake in the bizarre doubling down on the idea that the rules of professional behavior exist to be playfully transgressed? Why is there no recognition that one person’s playful transgression is another’s traumatic nightmare?"

everyone experiences everything differently. that's something i seem to think about every week. and she gets to that point. the way someone perceives their actions is not ensured to be the way others perceive it. even more so when that action is done to them. so, to defend yourself by explaining that it wasn't maliciously intended, whatever the action, is not sufficient if the other person is claiming you hurt them. that's about as far as i'm gonna go with this here. for now. maybe forever